It is not only the person but society which says this is okay. Think about how often you have heard a man say, I need a woman who will take care of me. Its also cliché to hear, Shes gotta cook like my mama. And when you meet a mans mother its like getting the approval to carry the torch. She scopes you out to make sure youll be able to take care of her son.
All too often women are given the responsibility of looking out for their man and making sure he doesnt get into any trouble. It even gets to the point where we have to make the decisions for him and tell him what to do. The huge problem with this is that no one wants to be a nagging wife/girlfriend.
When someone gives you a list of qualities they aspire to be, nagging is never one of them. Yet, some men still want us to be in this position. That is when we really start to act like a mother and he steps into the child position.
The way to stop this is to show us that you can make sound decision on your own. Come home at reasonable hours, pick halfway decent friends, and clean up after yourself. These things will make our lives a whole lot easier because we really dont want to be another mother to you. We are just being our caretaking selves.
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