Youve grown up and you notice the difference but they dont. They still feel like they have to protect you and tell you what to do. Mothers have a hard time letting go or keeping their noses out of our business. Most of them think they have to give us their advice or meddle in our affairs.
My cousin Kay is having a problem, with her mother. Her mother seems to think that she knows more about Kays life than Kay. Shes always makes comments about Kays boyfriend; saying she isnt ready for that kind of relationship and they shouldnt be together.
Her mother also continuously makes comments about Kays career choices and spending habits. Its gotten to the point that it is now irritating and hard to understand. Her mother is going as far as conveying her feelings about Kays relationship with her boyfriend. Telling him that Kay isnt mature enough for this and he could do better.
She even made remarks to him on Kays past relationships and things she has done in the past. Its almost as if her mother is out to destroy her life. This whole situation leaves us trying to figure out if her mother is really looking out for Kays best interest or if she is jealous of the way Kays life is going.
Almost every time Kay has great news about things that are going on in her life, her mother always has to be pessimistic.
Shes quick to say that shes only protecting Kays heart but thats hard to believe. Its getting to a point that her advice is poisonous. We know that her mother loves her but we just think that she needs to let go. Mothers are naturally very caring and we think that Kays progression is making her mother feel like she isnt needed. Somehow her mother is unconsciously trying to keep Kay dependent on her.
We know that her mother loves her and cares for her very much but we know that Kay has to take her advice with a grain of salt. Thats why weve come to the conclusion that Mother doesnt always know best.
Sometimes Mother only knows as much or less than you do. Then there are times Mother knows whats best for her.
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