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Strategy for Finding Romance after Fifty -- 3 of 3 parts

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Richard O. Jones
It doesn’t take the world’s most observant looky lou to see that single seniors are on the rise. This statistic does not discriminate.  Singles going through sunset years alone can be seen at senior citizen recreational centers, in churches, restaurants, malls, museums, movie matinees, on cruises, the Las Vegas Strip, and practically everywhere else.

However, the most blatant exposition of seniors alone is in the personal ad section of newspapers, magazines, and Internet dating clubs. I have viewed hundreds of classified personal ads from various publications and websites and discovered a few counter productive similarities of lovelorn seniors.  At least 70% of the females require that their future companion is of their religious faith, 50% wants a mate that is tall and handsome, 40% require financial security, and 10 - 15% insist that he has no criminal past. Senior men, on the other hand, at a 75% rate require that their future companion is younger than they are and attractive, only 40% are concerned about her spirituality, and 20% has a prerequisite about her finances.

Let’s take a closer look at what these diehard home alone seniors.  The females want a man that is (1) a faithful believer of her religion, (2) tall and good looking, (3) financiallysitting pretty and (4) with a squeaky clean past. Men, for the most part, are fantasizing (1)          being the Prince Charming of sleeping beauty, secondly a good religious woman, and hopefully she’s not flat broke. These mindsets are selfish and self-defeating.

There is a continuously grown of baby boomers without mates.

These dire circumstances stimulate long-term depression, which, according to many psychological studies may trigger other mental and/or medical problems.

Since most seniors have a religious affiliation, I will address the religious aspect first. The Holy Bible states in Genesis 2:18 – The LORD God said, “It is not good for

the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Yet, a few seniors profess they will not compromise their wish list. No one, in good faith, can use the logic that

God in his or her life is sufficient because God himself said, “It is not good to be alone.” God then created woman for man. The Bible says: Genesis 2:25 - And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. In my opinion, this statement – they were both naked – extends to means pure, without artificial or superficial attraction, without insecurities or lure of material things. Their nakedness freed them of all earthly attractions and distractions. So religious seniors need to tear down their great wall of expectations – and begin to seek the fruits of the spirit in their future mate as mentioned in Gal.5: 22-23 Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

A senior females and males in search of a companion builds a high wall, of no value, around themselves by insisting that a mate is a faithful believer of their doctrine. If either is solid in their faith, they shouldn’t squander their few precious years concerned about what an, otherwise good and kind, mate spiritually believes, as long as the two respects each others right to religious choice as guaranteed by the constitution.  Seniors shouldn’t become snared by the term unevenly yoked unless they’re founding a church or oxen harnessed together. And the statistics are that seldom does both parties meet the high standards of the religion they claim to belong.

Therefore since neither is perfect anyway both should cut the piousness, vanity, and the materialism and seek down to earth companionship, honesty, and someone to grow old and cranky with.

(For strategic ways of meeting quality seniors other than online go to writer’s website and click Blog.)

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