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Strategy for Finding Romance after Fifty -- 1 of 3 parts

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Richard O. Jones
In January 2009, my wife of ten years filed for divorce, which gradually, after the initial sting, and sprint of emotionalism, sent me grazing into the green pasture of the senior dating scene. The field of single seniors is not barren.  The vastness of Black single females over fifty is astounding.  Nevertheless, my thought became where or how in the world was I going to meet somebody’s grandmother or great grandmother especially one that was walking and breathing under her own power. To my delight, I discovered Internet Senior Dating and browsed several of the senior websites, ultimately joining one.

Recent statistics indicate that 49% of people over 50 are single.  Makes sense then that this is a growing group of dating enthusiasts.

It is now recognized as one of the fastest growing niches across the planet. Single seniors the world over are now opting to look for new companions, friends, lovers, and spouses in cyberspace as opposed to the more traditional venues of cruise ships, bowling clubs, and church socials. Why leave the comfort of your own home to find a new friend if you don’t have to? This can be especially advantageous for those who do not have access to cars, transport, or don’t feel comfortable meeting strangers in public. Seniors dating online can be an excellent opportunity to meet exciting new friends. You need never go anywhere on your own ever again. Find a chess mate, a local dramatic fan, an art lover, a traveling companion, or a new spouse.

However, several of the females that I have become acquaintanted with have confided in me that even in cyberspace their search for a good man bears little fruit. On close observation, I noticed that in most of their written profiles, and I’ve read hundreds, the women inadvertently write things about themselves and/or their preferences in men that are more of a turn-off than an attraction. First off too many women find it necessary to put their foot down before they even met the man. For example they subtlely or blatantly let it be known that they are aggressive and argument prone. Well, the problem with that logic is that very few men will knowingly sign-up for relationship combat.  This deters men because they see this particular woman with her sleeves rolled up and a rolling pin clinched in her hand.

Another drawback is being overzealous about religion. Over ninety percent of the Black senior divorced women on Internet dating websites not only proclaim their Christianity but also state that their new friend has to be a Christian. This greatly narrows the field. A man does not have to call himself a Christian to be a good, honest, monogamous man.

Plus the fact that an every man or woman that is a Christian does not imply that he or she is a good mate or even rational on a personal level.


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