“A married man... has to... “
(1 Corinthians 7:33 NLT)
Paul writes: 'An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But a married man can't do that so well. He has to think about… how to please his wife.' I am reminded of a story that I once heard of a woman browsing in a bookstore and discovering a shelf with reduced-price items. Among the gifts was a little figurine with a man and woman, their heads lovingly tilted toward one another. 'Happy 10th Anniversary,' read the inscription. It appeared to be in perfect condition yet its tag indicated 'damaged.' Examining it more closely, she found another tag underneath that read, 'WIFE IS COMING UNGLUED!'
When you marry somebody, you marry everything they are and everything they have been through. It's a package deal! And if you ask God, He'll give you the grace to minister to your mate. You may not see immediate change. It takes time for even a small cut to heal. But if you allow Him, God will give you the oil of compassion and the wine of love to pour into their wounds. Never become so spiritual that you become unavailable. Your first calling is to your mate and your family.
Your priorities should start there, then spread to your career, your vocation and other pursuits. Paul says, in effect, 'I release those who are married from the level of consecration I expect from those who are single, so that they'll be able to spend time working on their relationship.' You say, 'But I need to spend time with the Lord.' That's true, and the Bible doesn't release you from your responsibility to God, it just sets some priorities. You're called to serve the Lord; and your mate!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
For the last few days, I have been meditating on the subject of marriage. Something is radically wrong with homes today. The family is under fire and home life is disintegrating.
Year by year the stress put on marriages grows greater. In 1870 there was one divorce for every 34 marriages.
By 1900 it was one in five, and by 1950 it was one in three. In the past few years there has been virtually one divorce for every two marriages.
God’s institution of Marriage is under constant attack and the church must become a part of the solution for healthy marriages. Pastor Larry & Lady Melinda are requesting the presence of all Married or Engaged Couples to participate in a special one day “Marriage Enrichment Workshop”. The specific details are as follows:
MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT WORKSHOP
When: Saturday, May 22, 2010 from 8:30 a.m. — 5:00 p.m.
Where: Inghram Community Center located at 2050 N. Mt Vernon Ave. San Bernardino , CA
We will be serving a Continental Breakfast ~ Lunch ~ Snacks. A $50.00 per couple registration fee includes all books, study material and meals.
Workable solutions to the following marital issues will be presented:
• How to have Win - Win communications.
• How to communicate with love and respect.
• Conflict resolution: How to forgive.
• How to argue with respect.
• Money management.
• Whose money is it anyway?
• Intimacy: How to put passion back into your marriage.
• Leaving a positive marriage legacy.
• And so much more …..
Pastor Campbell can reached at firstname.lastname@example.org