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Raise Children With Wisdom Instead Of Training Spoiled Brats Or Societal Menaces |
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Thursday, 09 August 2007 |
 Richard O. Jones
There are several methods the live in harmony with your
dependent children. The best method is referred to in Proverbs 22:6 - Train up
a child the way he should up: and when he is old, he will not depart from
it. Unfortunately, I observe more
preschool children training the parent than the other way around. For example:
I was in a restaurant recently sitting near a mother with her 4-year-old
daughter. When the waitress came to take the order, the mother ordered a
healthy meal for herself and her daughter. I was actually impressed with their
order. However, when the order arrived and the child saw the contents of the
plate, she began to throw a tantrum. Eventually the child won and the mother
sent the balanced meal back and exchanged it for french fries, a hamburger, and
glass of lemonade, which the controlling child only picked over. That mother
demonstrated a case of parental surrender. The 4-year-old was training the
parent.
Many parents choose the road of least resistance when
negotiating with strong-willed children. Unfortunately such a surrender
response encourages the child. While hitting, yelling, and threatening is not
the answer because it instills fear, which grows into resentment. Plus fear is
only effective with the threat of harm is present. Like an armed robber
demanding your all money without the gun, the robber becomes just another
beggar asking for your money. You may give him some change but certainly not
all your money. The robber has no power without the gun as some parents have no
power without the presence of yelling, hitting, and threatening.
The way to train your child is to outsmart them. If you use
wisdom you can outsmart most preschool or elementary school child. First you
must realize that your child is more intelligent than a circus animal. If
animal trainers can train wild animals such as lions and tigers to dance and
bounce beach balls on their noses, certainly your child can be taught good
human behavior. Animals are not the only
creatures that can be trained. Rowdy undisciplined men go into the military and
learn to march in step and speak with respect to their commanding officer. So
why are children so disrespectful and disobedient? The answer is not bad
children but bad trainers.
Children are best trained with psychology. In other words,
you must be clever. You must devise schemes to make them think going to bed
early, eating their vegetables, or cleaning their room is their idea.
Statistics show that when the cartoon character Popeye the Sailor was created
in comic books in 1929 the sell of spinach tripled. Children couldn't get
enough spinach because they were convinced it made them stronger. Next the
cartoon character Bugs Bunny was created in 1940 and children became to eat
more carrots. Then the milk industry got wise and collaborated with the cold
cereal industry to put a cartoon character on every box of cereal showing the
cereal in a bowl of milk. That's the way children begin to get their needed
calcium. It all was psychology to get children to eat or drink what they once
refused to eat or drink.
Look at all the baggy and sagging clothes being worn, that
wasn't the childrens' idea. Again they are being manipulated. Over 25 million
children read more than one (very thick) Harry Potter book. Why?
I have written a 90-page spiral bound paperback book priced
at $22 called, "Parenting Through the Storm." In 2004, I used the book to teach
a parenting class at Riverside
Community College. If the
lessons in this book are followed and practiced, parents will soon gain control
of their children. The family must study it together and discussions about each
chapter and exercise. Only 15 copies are left.
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