Dr. Ernest Levister Jr.

Dear L.E. It's noble to say your child will be loved but love alone won't put food in its mouth nor will it pay for your child's college education. Parenting is hard work that requires more than just love. It's pathetic that our schools don't require classes in what is probably the most important legacy you'll leave behind. Becoming a parent means being an adult 24-7. Becoming physically mature means you'll need to mature emotionally and mentally too.

A parent has many responsibilities. When it comes to child rearing, providing food, shelter clothing and medical care are just the beginning of what is expected. A child needs mature guidance. Don't expect to live out you own childhood while watching your child grow up without a rudder. Children need both of their parents' love, attention and affection. Don't depend on a family member(s) to raise your child. People who choose to become parents need to be prepared financially. You will need a steady income to provide for your child's needs.

Child rearing begins long before you give birth. Giving birth means making healthy responsible choices. Get to know what's happening inside your body physically and emotionally. As you prepare to give birth here are some questions to ponder.

Prepared to permanently alter your teenage life style

Identify sources of income beyond child support/government assistance

Communicating with the baby's father

Planning to stay in school  

Receiving pre-natal care

Angry about being pregnant

Willing to take a parenting class

Eating properly

Smoking cigarettes

Drinking alcohol

Using illegal drugs

Using legal drugs to excess

Exercising regularly

Getting enough sleep

Take some time to reflect on these questions. Your answers should give you some insight into what's occurring in your body, some of what's expected of you and whether you are ready to become a parent.