Dear Dr. Levister: The Christmas holidays are very stressful for me. What can I do to cut down on the stress and still enjoy the season? G.P.

Dear G.P.  It is possible to survive the holiday frenzy without feeling frantic -- if you know how. The holidays are the best of times and the worst of times. The season's tidings of comfort and joy can easily be devoured by the stressful urge to do it all, be it all and buy it all.

Dr. Ernest Levister, Jr. F.A.C.P. F.A.C.P.M.

First, pause and reexamine why you celebrate Christmas then cut yourself some slack. Ratchet down stress by lowering expectations. There is a tendency to cram too much emotion, bonding and intimacy into a very hectic few days. Expect some irritations and imperfections, inject a sense of humor then relax and have a good time in spite of them.

Shop so you don't drop. Take a personal day in the middle of the week. Hit the shops early in the morning. The crowds are less and the service is better. Make up a list of things you want to accomplish that day. Make up a budget. When the money is spent back off. Resist the urge to increase your available credit. Remember the insatiable urge to spend lots of money during the holidays will ultimately add to your stress long after the pine needles have been vacuumed from the carpet. It takes an average of four months for a credit card user to pay off stress-inducing holiday bills.

Treat yourself.  Don't let the hustling and bustling drain you. Eat a healthy breakfast. Eat mini meals throughout the day. Exercise three to five times a week. Drink plenty of ‘plain' water. Take time out to refresh, a soak in a hot tub, or a solitary evening of prayerful meditation or soothing music.

Select social events carefully. Don't feel guilty about saying no to an invitation. Connect with family and friends who share your values and expectations of the holidays. Take the time and effort to reaffirm what this season really means to you, whether it's about family, community or religion. Go help someone in need, to help yourself reaffirm what the holidays are all about.