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How to Discipline Emotions

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For Black People desiring to do skilled Critical Thinking (CT), understand everything has its proper place which means keeping the good (e.g. whatever is satisfying); shedding the bad (out of control bad emotions), and expanding the needed (e.g. CT). The discipline of Emotions starts with making the decision and putting into action the separating and shedding of ones bad emotions while cultivating ones good emotions. Because Emotions are normal and spontaneous they cannot be commanded to do anything. And to fight bad emotion is to pour energy into them and that energy gives them increasing power. Instead, the change of habit is to withdraw attention from them and that lack of energy causes them to wither and disappear. To enhance this one uses ones reason + ones Right Brain awareness that it is natural to engage in interconnections and thus it is normal for the Right Brain (with its Emotional faculty) to return to working as a team player with ones Left Brain. As one develops the use of ones Left Brain skills it automatically disciplines the Right Brain. Its display is in one no longer expecting things done in the way one has always done things and/or for people to be a certain way in order to relate closely to them. Just as discrimination is not good for different races, neither is it good for people within ones own Brain/race.

To make these changes is to engage in a way of living that is a thriving process and that constitutes an initiation onto a Truth-Track that carries one through the mysteries of the mazes of life whereby one gains deeper and deeper understanding of the Spiritual Elements. To enter without an opinion of it being drudgery or fear of the unknown is a display that one has reconnected ones Right and Left Brains as independent team players focused interdependently on a shared goal to achieve a thriving course through life. To proceed down the "Truth-Track" necessarily develops an understanding of Cosmic Laws because of ones experiences of knowing for oneself. When one drinks iced water one knows it is cold. This is vastly different from Beliefs whereby one has a fervent hope that what they are doing is true and right--but Beliefs are not self-correcting because of the emotion contained within them (and emotions have no morals and are thus not self-correcting). Facing head-on the mysteries of the mazes of life + the experience of handling them + the "knowings" from each experience + the desire to thrive (and not keep repeating the same mistakes as well as not procrastinating) + the understanding of all these parts and the "Why" of their necessity is what forms a sound and skilled CT. One will then be able to compare ones old Ordinary Thinking (OT) and bad emotions results and consequences (which were causing recurrent vicious cycles and thereby making life harder and harder) with ones new CT results and consequences (which started off hard, tedious, and boring but then caused life to get better and better). One will find that the absence of ones bad emotions relieves chronic tension; the need to run to others for "soothing"; the uselessness of "Escapes"; and the increasingly interesting adventure in pursuing how to thrive in life. CT causes one to see the benefits from doing unimportant things (e.g. untangling strings) so as to get a "flavor" of what to do when it is most needed.

By generating an atmosphere of good Emotions and desiring to cultivate them might change ones entire outlook on life, including whom one chooses for friends and how to relate to them; or even carve out a Mission to help others get past their Bad Emotions and start enjoying life. In contrast to having to "Believe," one will see that CT operates out of "Knowing" and that works best for serious business. Then Belief and Faith separate so that faith is applied--not to outside things that others (including religion) says to accept without question--over to oneself. What is better than Self-Efficacy (knowing ones skills match the challenges, even those never seen nor heard of before) and having self-faith in there being no alternative but to do it right.

Determining what is of high priority cannot be clearly known until a "Free Mind" is achieved. To start, consider the disadvantages of always doing the same thing. that, use the "What is Behind That!" Query process to discover the Keystone issue and do something about it and their self-defeating ripples in ones life. What are "broad strokes" being used to categorize people that are different? Do the necessary research to discover who is evil as opposed to who is "strange" (not doing what everyone thinks is "normal") but helpful. For one who is self-absorbed, make a list of what is thought, felt, expressed, and done--then do the opposite. Discover from successful people what good manners are. Put on hold for a week the getting of friends opinions so as to discover how one really thinks about things. Practice not having an opinion on some subject or person where this occurs so as to see the reality of what is rather than how one would like/dislike for it to be. Make room in the day to start looking at/listening to meaningful ideas and/or tone down being preoccupied with what people are doing or how they appear or events.

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